Sex appeal is one of those intangible qualities that can be hard to describe. Imagine your sexiest friend – the one that always seems to be the centre of attention when you go out. Chances are she is not necessarily the hottest one in your group of friends. What she does have is aplomb, or more succinctly put, charisma; she draws people due to her sheer, unbridled audacity. Irritating, isn’t it?
At Under the Covers we believe that jealousy is a useless emotion, which is why we’d like to share a happy notion that will get you to stop hating and start appreciating – sex appeal can be learned. Here are a few pointers to help you crank up your own brand of charisma:
Trick your body into releasing confidence-boosting hormones before you enter a room
This might seem like science fiction trickery, but it’s a real thing. You can encourage your body to release all kinds of feel-good fluids in one of two ways:
- Take the time to recall a triumphant moment (really visualise it) before you enter a room. This kind of positive visualisation has been shown to increase endorphin levels.
- Take an expansive stance. If you stand with your legs slightly apart and your chest lifted (in a natural way that does not make you look like King Kong) it naturally reduced anxiety and pumps the body with energy-promoting hormones.
Play with personal space boundaries
If you are working your way towards a hook-up, you might want to give the body space equivalent of the cha-cha a try. Every person as a natural space bubble and when you step inside it, it will automatically get them to take notice of you. The trick is not to linger there like a perv. Step inside it. move away and step inside it again a little while later. This is a clear-cut come hither move that always piques interest.
Be genuinely interested in the other person
If there is only one thing that you take away from this article, let it be this – a conversation is a two-way street and another person can quickly tell when you are simply waiting for your turn to speak. One of the things that all charismatic people have in common is that they have a genuine interest in other people, which shows in the way in which they conduct themselves in conversation. Ask about his work, his interests and show that you are genuinely listening by responding with appropriate anecdotes and follow-up questions.
These are just a few of the ways in which you can crank up your own sex appeal. Keep your eye on the Under the Covers blog for more helpful information to spice up your sex life.