- Your brain is your most important sexual organ. So to enhance orgasm focus on what’s happening in your mind. Fantasise. Have erotic and sexual thoughts. Read erotic literature.
- Make sure you are not thinking of the 10 things you have to do before tomorrow…
- Make sure you are in your body and that you are not dissociated. In other words that your body is there, but that you are somewhere on another planet.
- Focus on the sensations in your body.
- Focus on yourself and not on what you need to do for him or on your thighs or stomach fat.
- Know what you like in bed. Know your body and own your power as a sexual being. Become comfortable with your body and sexuality.
- Most women need at least 20 minutes of clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Foreplay is very important and there is nothing wrong with reaching orgasm during foreplay and not penetration.
- Relax, take a few deep breaths and enjoy!
- Women need different kinds of stimulation of the breasts, vulva, ears, clitoris, neck, mouth and other erogenous zones.
- For some women being on top can boost an orgasm because you have control over the depth and angle of penetration.
- Don’t forget sexual aids like a vibrator. You can also stimulate the clitoris with a vibrator during penetration.
- Try being blindfolded. All your other sense will heighten.
- The coital alignment (CAT) technique can also boost orgasm. Put a pillow or wedge underneath your buttocks. Let him penetrate you and lie on top of you. Instead of thrusting he should move backwards and forwards stimulating the clitoral area.
- Kegel exercises or invest in a set of kegel balls, which are great tools to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and tighten your vagina.
- Try and close your legs during the missionary position.
- Deeper penetration can lead to stimulation of the cervix. Try being on top with your back towards him or the missionary position with your legs pulled up.
